The Truth about Happiness

Posted on May 15, 2014 in Journal

The Truth about Happiness - Miss Foodie One day you are laughing, happy in the world, and where you are in it. The next you are crying, confused of the world and wondering how you’re going to survive in it.

My family and I were belted some devastating health news a few months ago about one of our closest. I have gone through a whirlwind of emotions, most of which have been instilled in sadness.

One way or another, everyone will experience trauma in their lives. Sadly, others will have more than their fair share. Heartache, work stress, low self-esteem, divorce, death, sickness – all of the above! These hurdles are never easy, but there are positives to be had, a cleansing of the soul if you will? A cue to reassess life, to filter what is truly important in your world. And it takes a special soul to do this, to grow from painful experiences – to fight on.

A huge self-discovery for me has been the realisation that being sad or depressed is OK, in fact it is normal and like all things it will pass. This was very hard for me because I’ve always prided myself on being a very positive and happy person.

“Western society assumes that mental suffering is abnormal. It is seen as a weakness or illness, a product of a mind that is somehow faulty or defective. This means that when we do inevitably experience painful thoughts and feelings, we often criticise ourselves for being weak or stupid.”

“We live in a feel-good society, a culture thoroughly obsessed with finding happiness. And what does that society tell us to do? To eliminate ‘negative’ feelings and accumulate ‘positive’ ones in their place. It’s a nice theory and on the surface it makes sense. After all, who wants to have unpleasant feelings? But here’s the catch: the things we generally value most in life bring with them a whole range of feelings, both pleasant and unpleasant.”

The above exert is from the book The Happiness Trap. This insightful book has enabled me to put a lot of things into perspective. Being told I could lose one of the closest people in my life filled me with a deep sadness and at times I thought I would never escape. I thought I was weak because of it. Now, looking back, I was silly for telling myself such nonsense! My world turned upside down, I was scared, the thought of losing someone I loved was breaking me – I had every right to be unhappy and secluded. Sadness is a natural emotional response to environmental circumstances.

We have the ability to overcome sadness, reach balance, and get to our happy place. For me to walk the path of happiness, I have had to remind myself of some very simple and valuable life lessons that I thought I would share.

Your health is everything and should never be taken for granted.
Listen to your soul. If you’re beginning to feel overwhelmed or stressed, take time-out.
Spend time alone and do something that makes YOU happy.
Don’t bottle things up.
Learn to say NO.
Love, OK like your job, if you don’t, consider a career change.
Help others when they are in need, and that means doing the little things.
Practice Yoga
Surround yourself with the right people. People who are going to lift you higher.
Friendship – it’s a two way street.
And the biggest one! Love your family; they could disappear in an instant.

It’s always been instilled upon me that family comes first and I’ve always believed that. But it hasn’t been until recently that I have a deeper new found understanding of that.

A tough road ahead still meanders, but I feel a new sense of strength within myself that will not only help me but also more importantly help my family.

The Truth about Happiness1

YOU DON’T
BECOME HAPPY
BY PURSUING HAPPINESS.
YOU BECOME
HAPPY BY
LIVING A LIFE
THAT MEANS SOMETHING.

10 Comments

  1. Sending you love and hugs. Your smile cheers the world so take some time out for you and your family and hope all goes well.

    • Thanks darling girl! Hope motherhood is treating you well… it looks to me you’re a natural 😉

  2. Beautifully written Krist! Love you loads hun and sorry to hear that you’ve had such a rough time. I think of you often on this side of the world and hope that you continue finding strength in the little things in life. Love you heaps and am the biggest fan of Miss Foodie 🙂 xxx

    • Thanks Karolina! Appreciate your kind words. Missing you a lot xx

  3. Very lovely post Kirsten and very wise words. Sending you lots of love xx

  4. Once again you write so beautifully Kirsten! Just gorgeous and insightful. I’m so sorry to hear you have had such a hard time of late, and hope that your family is able to stay happy and overcome whatever this horrible health issue is. Keep up the positive thoughts. They are inspiring. Chelsea x

    • Thanks Chelsea! Was hesitant to post this but I really felt the urge to reach out to others. We all go through inner struggles sometimes and I wanted people to know it’s OK to feel glum when you do and that they’re not alone. Life isn’t always perfect. In saying that you can’t get stuck there, you have to be strong and move on. And learn to listen to your body, yoga has helped me immensly with that 🙂 xx

  5. Beautiful xxxx

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